25 Lessons I Learned in 25 Years

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Tomorrow is my 25th birthday and you know what that means?! I can finally rent a car and I’m officially a quarter century old, wooo #adulting! This weekend some of my good friends and I decided to take a trip to our alma mater to celebrate the big 2-5!

This is a big birthday to me because I’m now halfway through my twenties and I feel like I have gained so much wisdom since becoming a twenty-something. I have changed so much from my 20 year old self to my now 25 year old self. I have learned so much since starting my career at 21 and I’m finally starting to figure out this whole “real world” thing!

The lessons we learn during our twenties can help shape us into the adults and role models we become. So in honor of my 25th birthday, I wanted to dedicate this post to the lessons I’ve learned so far in my twenties. Whether you just turned 20 or you’re near the end of your twenties, these apply to every single one of you!

#1 You NEED to love yourself first

#2 Don’t be afraid to be yourself

In our teens, it was so easy to let others influence how we dress and act (I’m 100% guilty of this). In your twenties, do what you like to do and dress how you want to dress. Don’t feel pressure to do something that you just aren’t into – that is totally OK! Embrace who you are and own it πŸ™‚

#3 Be okay with change

#4 Take time for YOU

#5 Establish a routine

In my early twenties, I really found out the value of having a routine. It is something that I always come back to and what keeps me organized during the week. Figure out what routines work well for you and try to stick to them! Developing a routine is also one of the best professional habits you can establish in your twenties.

#6 You will make mistakes and that’s okay

#7 Step outside of your comfort zone

#8 Say “no” sometimes

This is something that I’ve started doing a lot more recently. I feel like there is a bad stigma around saying “no” and I want stop that. Often times, we just say yes even though we don’t really want to participate or we don’t really mean it. You can totally say no every once in awhile, don’t feel guilty about it!

#9 Your health is very important

#10 Invest in learning new skills

#11 Find your REAL friends & never let them go

It took me a long time to figure out who my real friends were. Even in college, there were friends that weren’t “true” friends and I learned that after graduating. Figure out who those real friends are that have your back and support you no matter what. Hold onto them!

#12 Get enough sleep

#13 Travel by yourself

#14 Travel with your friends

#15 Pay those student loan bills

Seriously, stop putting off those student loans! It is only hurting you in the long run! Your twenties are a great time to pay off your debts and if you have to live with your parents to pay off those loans, don’t be embarrassed – it could actually turn out to be the best decision you ever made.
Related Reading: Why Its Okay to Live With Your Parents After College

#16 Dedicate time to your passions and hobbies

#17 You have to work hard for what you want, it doesn’t just happen

#18 You can’t control everything

#19 You don’t have to stick to the “plan”Β 

If you’re anything like me, then you probably have a timeline for your entire life! Believe me, I love making plans and timelines for my life but sometimes you just have to let go of the “plan”. There will be things that will come up that won’t go as you planned and sometimes, it is really for the better. Be open to the changes in your life and embrace them πŸ™‚

#20 Don’t dwell on the past, learn from it

#21 Spend time with your family

#22 Stray away from negative people

#23 Establish your credit

#24 Laugh often and don’t take yourself so seriously

Life is meant to be FUN! One thing I’ve learned is that life is short, so we have to enjoy ourselves and laugh as much as possible. There’s no need to always take yourself so seriously, spend more time smiling and enjoying your surroundings.



What lessons have you learned in your twenties?Β 

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  1. Happy birthday!!! I loved 25!!! These two were my favorite:
    #16 Dedicate time to your passions and hobbies

    #17 You have to work hard for what you want, it doesn’t just happen

  2. I love these lessons. Especially the one about making mistakes! I’ve got this idea in my head that I should have a plan for the next ten years and be super organized about my career etc but I’ve really got no idea what I’m doing and I think that’s okay.

  3. First off, I just recently wrote a post similar to this and I know first hand how hard it is to come up with a gazillion lessons like this. You rocked it! So much wisdom packed in this post. I love that you have serious lessons like establishing your credit and paying off debt, but lighthearted lessons like traveling with friends and drinking wine πŸ™‚

  4. Isn’t it funny how we all learn the same lessons throughout our lives, but we just can’t internalize them until we make the mistakes and learn the lessons ourselves? I know that so many of these are things that my parents could have told me growing up, but I would still have lived exactly the way that I did in order to find out for myself. It’s not the easiest route, but it’s worthwhile–and I’m glad that you’ve learned so many important things by age 25!

  5. Love this list! I definitely feel better about #8 the older I get. I used to feel so guilty saying no but you can’t please everyone and you can’t do all the things all the time. Great post!

  6. So much great advice that I don’t even know where to start xD totally love all of these life lessons, especially learning to say no… couldn’t agree more to that one!!

  7. I love #24! I try to not to take myself to seriously and laughing is part of my daily routine. In fact, I just read that one of the top regrets people have in old age is being to serious, all the more reason to enjoy what life has to offer and have fun!

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